In the good old days, think Little House on the Prairie, every town had their one person of each trade. If you needed a doctor, you called for Doc Baker or even just shouted, “Get the doctor!” and everyone knew who that doctor was. If you needed supplies, you would go to the general store, and you knew the owner by name, and all his family.
Not only did you know these people, they knew you well because you were the only one of your trade in the town. The doctor would ask about your family members if he saw you or even your neighbor in town. He would answer questions for you, without strings attached –no bill would be sent to your home for a street visit. The general store clerk would let you make payments, without interest. He would lend you things you just needed for a day.
That’s just how things were back then. People needed each other even though in reality everyone had a monopoly of their trade. They could have charged whatever they wanted and if you didn’t like it, your only other option was the next town over which was a days journey there and back, but these people know you, and your family. They didn’t rip each other off because someday they may need your services and on top of that, they were your friends in the community.
In contrast, today if you don’t like the service you are getting, you can easily toss a stone and hit another business willing to undercut the competitors to give you a better price.
The mentality now is, You don’t need them and they don’t need you. There are no relationships built with businesses today. That is why mom and pop stores are such a prize to find. They give you friendly service without asking much, because they come from the good old days where this was just how things were.
But what happens in today’s world when you try to create relationships with those around you?
My wife and I have been going to the a particular restaurant for almost three years. It’s like clockwork, every Tuesday, if we don’t have a meal planned, my wife says, “What about Garcia’s?”. She loves this place, and Tuesday they offers kids eat free. We get in and out of there for under $15, full and with enough leftovers for my wife to eat for lunch for at least a few days. Not only is the food great, and the price very low, we have gotten very friendly and built relationships with some of the servers. They know our names, our kids names and our ordering habits.
This restaurant serves free chips, salsa and bean dip to every table. We love this stuff and always ask for an additional dish of bean dip, because they are small and we go through a dish in a matter of minutes. If one of our waitresses sees us come in, even if we are not seated in their area, they tell the hostess to bring us extra beans, salsa and chips. Did you read that? Even if we are not seated in their area..even if they stand to make no profit from their efforts, they make sure we are treated very well, because they know us!
The moral of the story is, instead of trying to sap the world for all its worth and looking for every way you can gain from a situation, try building relationships with the people you interact with. You are already in contact with these people on a regular basis, so why not brighten up both of your lives, and make something more out of the interactions.
Though you may save money this way, and receive better service, the benefits will go far beyond the physical or fiscal realm. You may just make a lifelong friend and make someones life a little better in the process.
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