The other day I was checking in on my Browsershot.org Shot Factory and happened to observe one site that was being visited. I sometimes check in on what sites are requesting screenshots because there is a chance I could come across some gem that is being redesigned or tweaked and as a closet web developer, that really interests me.
The website that requested screenshots was called Fund Our Wedding. Come to find out it hasn’t actually been launched yet, nevertheless it still piqued my interest.
The website is being launched on October 1st, and based on the URL I’m sure you can figure out what it’s all about.
The people behind it, named Spencer and Brittany discovered from their homepage , thought it would be an interesting social experiment to erect a website dedicated to asking for donations for their wedding.
Personally, I can’t decide what I think about the idea so I thought I’d get some input from you, my great and ever wise readers 🙂
Why I think this idea is just wrong
My wife and I never had a wedding. We got married in a small town, in the courthouse which was in reality, the judges office with two strangers as witnesses. The reason for this being that we wanted to get on with our lives. I was busy with a business start-up and my then girlfriend had moved with me to a new state but we weren’t living together (call us old-fashioned). We wanted to start a family but were also impatient, young and considerably broke.
If we had waited and saved up for the wedding, we would probably still be waiting. The experiences we have had as a result of our early marriage and the huge amount of growth I personally experienced when I became a father at 20, just shy of a year after our wedding are priceless and there is no way I would be where I am today if we hadn’t gotten married at 19/18 respectively.
Just for the record, my wife does regret never having a wedding and cried about it for at least the first two years we were married whenever she got a wedding announcement in the mail. If I could do it all over again, instead of spending all of my savings on fancy dates with my then girlfriend, I would have set some aside for a modest wedding so that she wouldn’t have any regrets.
Our personal story isn’t why I think this idea is wrong though. I have no problem with someone trying to get help with a big purchase like a wedding but our story is an example that there is life beyond the wedding; the wedding or lack thereof is just the beginning. One should never sacrifice their future for their immediate wants.
What I do have a problem with is spending $20,000 on a wedding! I know the average cost of a wedding is closer to $25,000 but I am appalled by that fact. As a man, I can’t see any reason to spend that much money on a wedding..
Secondly, Spencer and Brittany have been engaged for a year and a half now according to their new website, and there is no mention there if they have done any saving before their little experiment. To rely solely on the gratitude of others to fund a wedding of such magnitude is irresponsible!
Why I think this idea is really cool
I love social experiments and I love studying behavior in general. The era we live in of constant connectivity and far too much knowledge about our neighbors brings thousands of new and very interesting possibilities.
These two are putting themselves out there, telling their story and taking the initiative to fund their wedding in an out of the ordinary way, and I commend that. This kind of experiment couldn’t have been done five years ago, and I’m really curios to see how it turns out.
Will I be donating to the cause?
At this point, I don’t think so. I just happened upon their website and am observing their experiment objectively.
I will continue to look into their project during the next year, and if on the completion and official launch of their social experiment they give some examples of ways they are trying to save for the wedding in case they don’t get the funding they need or they give examples of costs they have cut to reduce the cost of their wedding for the same reason, my heart strings may feel the tugs.
What about you? How much did you spend on your wedding? Did you pull any stunts to secure funding for your satin adventure?