As some of you may know, my wife and I had our third child this past weekend. Having a child is quite the experience. I never thought anything could change my life like having a kid could, and each time the experience brings something new to my life. This is our first boy which is pretty significant.
The delivery was the smoothest out of all our children. There were no complications with the birth and both the baby and my wife are recovering well, with or without any sleep…
But with this birth I realized something. I didn’t think about money the whole time we were there in the hospital and for me that’s saying something. I’m not cheap, I’m just frugal and try and save where I can. I won’t pass on something that I feel is important even if it costs me, but things that I don’t feel are important I won’t be talked into. I’m stubborn, just ask my mother.
I got to thinking about this more after we got home and a lot has changed between our second child and our third, and even more between our first and third both in what goes on in our lives internally and what things affect our lives externally such as insurance and work. But none of those things ever changed the two or three days that we spend in the hospital.
With each birth, those days are hectic yet peaceful days. They are days full of worry but none of which concern money because no matter what happens, if we don’t have our health we have nothing. If my wife had problems or the baby had problems, no amount of money would stand between my getting them the appropriate care they need to recover.
Previous kids aside, this birth we worried most about my wife’s previous C-Section and what problems that could cause during the birthing process of our boy. The doctors very early on made it clear that even though our second child was a V-BAC (“normal” after C-Section) birth, this one was looking to be different because of how the baby was positioned and how the placenta was attached.
As the baby grew, we got more worried. The doctors measurements on the ultrasound machine showed a big baby and our second child always registered small. Well, all went as planned without a hitch. Our boy was bigger (7lb 11oz) than previous kids by about 1lb but it didn’t make a bit of difference.
Our doctors did what they were trained to do. The actual labor was the least intensive for my wife, the shortest and not even assisted like our second (vacuum). We couldn’t be more pleased with how everything went. We couldn’t be more thankful of our doctors and their hard work, the great nurses that were surprisingly chipper at 4am, and all of the hospital staff that made our stay so peaceful.
My point is that no matter what happens in life, money is not the most important thing. I know it is important and affects almost every aspect of life, but if you don’t take in those moments where life just stops all around you, no amount of money will ever make you happy. Those moments are priceless and can’t be bought with even the largest sum. Having a child is one of those life stopping moments, no matter how cliche this may sound.
What life changing moments can you think of in your own life? Please share them in the comments below. br>